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From the Ted Talk by Gary Barker: A reframing of masculinity, rooted in empathy

Unscramble the Blue Letters


I take you back to my high school in 1977. The boy who killed the other. I didn't tell you this part, but I knew him. Took me years to say I didn't know him well because I didn't want to know him well. He got dneeotitn, he buielld, he got detention again, he didn't do well in shcool, he got sent away. No one, apparently, racheed out to him.

Think about what we often do when boys or men cause harm. If you're young, we give you a time out. Get a little bit older, we give you a detention. You step into the workplace, you do harm, we fire you. You do something else, we incarcerate you. These acts are often necessary to rcduee harm, but they cut men off from the connection and humanity that we need, even when men have caused harm. I am not, in saying this, I'm not amfiifrng or bivneleig that we should give any man a free walk for harm that is caused. We must hold men accountable for harm caused. No question about that. We must call out with deep compassion when men do cause harm. We've also got to call in to being cnetecnod, caring humans.

Open Cloze


I take you back to my high school in 1977. The boy who killed the other. I didn't tell you this part, but I knew him. Took me years to say I didn't know him well because I didn't want to know him well. He got _________, he _______, he got detention again, he didn't do well in ______, he got sent away. No one, apparently, _______ out to him.

Think about what we often do when boys or men cause harm. If you're young, we give you a time out. Get a little bit older, we give you a detention. You step into the workplace, you do harm, we fire you. You do something else, we incarcerate you. These acts are often necessary to ______ harm, but they cut men off from the connection and humanity that we need, even when men have caused harm. I am not, in saying this, I'm not _________ or _________ that we should give any man a free walk for harm that is caused. We must hold men accountable for harm caused. No question about that. We must call out with deep compassion when men do cause harm. We've also got to call in to being _________, caring humans.

Solution


  1. detention
  2. school
  3. reached
  4. believing
  5. reduce
  6. affirming
  7. bullied
  8. connected

Original Text


I take you back to my high school in 1977. The boy who killed the other. I didn't tell you this part, but I knew him. Took me years to say I didn't know him well because I didn't want to know him well. He got detention, he bullied, he got detention again, he didn't do well in school, he got sent away. No one, apparently, reached out to him.

Think about what we often do when boys or men cause harm. If you're young, we give you a time out. Get a little bit older, we give you a detention. You step into the workplace, you do harm, we fire you. You do something else, we incarcerate you. These acts are often necessary to reduce harm, but they cut men off from the connection and humanity that we need, even when men have caused harm. I am not, in saying this, I'm not affirming or believing that we should give any man a free walk for harm that is caused. We must hold men accountable for harm caused. No question about that. We must call out with deep compassion when men do cause harm. We've also got to call in to being connected, caring humans.

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