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From the Ted Talk by Ian Kerner: A sex therapist's secret to rediscovering your spark

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So having a sex problem is like having a toothache. By the time you get to the dentist, or to me, a sex trepaisht, you just want to get out of pain. But what we just went through with COVID, that was like a sexual root canal. I mean, we spent months not changing out of our pamaajs. And sometimes not showering. No wonder so many of us lost our libidos. It's not that we're not sexual people. We want to want sex. We just don't want it.

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In my work with couples, one of the begigst problems I see is that sex often stalls out before it even gets started. There’s a “failure to launch,” an iniabltiy to get going and gain momentum. For example, one of my patients shuts down as soon as her partner starts to kiss her. Turns out, her boyfriend in the eghith grade told her she had bad breath. Another patient of mine is terierfid of losing his erection, so much so that he avoids any situation that could possibly lead to sex. But he tells his patnrer he has no desire, and he blames it on work stress. Meanwhile, he's filled with longing. He just doesn't dare show it. And so his partner feels ceofunsd and unattractive.

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So having a sex problem is like having a toothache. By the time you get to the dentist, or to me, a sex _________, you just want to get out of pain. But what we just went through with COVID, that was like a sexual root canal. I mean, we spent months not changing out of our _______. And sometimes not showering. No wonder so many of us lost our libidos. It's not that we're not sexual people. We want to want sex. We just don't want it.

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In my work with couples, one of the _______ problems I see is that sex often stalls out before it even gets started. There’s a “failure to launch,” an _________ to get going and gain momentum. For example, one of my patients shuts down as soon as her partner starts to kiss her. Turns out, her boyfriend in the ______ grade told her she had bad breath. Another patient of mine is _________ of losing his erection, so much so that he avoids any situation that could possibly lead to sex. But he tells his _______ he has no desire, and he blames it on work stress. Meanwhile, he's filled with longing. He just doesn't dare show it. And so his partner feels ________ and unattractive.

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So having a sex problem is like having a toothache. By the time you get to the dentist, or to me, a sex therapist, you just want to get out of pain. But what we just went through with COVID, that was like a sexual root canal. I mean, we spent months not changing out of our pajamas. And sometimes not showering. No wonder so many of us lost our libidos. It's not that we're not sexual people. We want to want sex. We just don't want it.

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In my work with couples, one of the biggest problems I see is that sex often stalls out before it even gets started. There’s a “failure to launch,” an inability to get going and gain momentum. For example, one of my patients shuts down as soon as her partner starts to kiss her. Turns out, her boyfriend in the eighth grade told her she had bad breath. Another patient of mine is terrified of losing his erection, so much so that he avoids any situation that could possibly lead to sex. But he tells his partner he has no desire, and he blames it on work stress. Meanwhile, he's filled with longing. He just doesn't dare show it. And so his partner feels confused and unattractive.

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