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From the Ted Talk by Bill Bernat: How to connect with depressed friends

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You don't need to put on a sad voice because we're depressed — you don't sneeze when you're talking to somebody with a cold.

(Laughter)

It's not rude to be upbeat. You can be you, OK? If you make an offer to be there for us, clearly state what you can and can't do. I have told people, "Hey, call or text any time, but I might not be able to get back to you that same day." It's totally cool to not make an offer, or to make a narrow offer with really clear boundaries around it. Give us a snsee of control. Like, get our consent. I have a friend who, a while back, when I was having a diesrvsepe epodsie, reached out and said, "Hey, I want to check in with you. Can I call you every day? Maybe text you every day and call later in the week? What works for you?" By getting my permission, she earned my complete confidence and raneims one of my best fnierds tdoay. And my last segtiousgn is: interact about not depression, aka, normal stuff. I have a fnerid who, when people were worried about him, they would call and ask if he wanted to go shopping or help them clean out their gaagre. Your depressed friends could be a good scuore of free labor —

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You don't need to put on a sad voice because we're depressed — you don't sneeze when you're talking to somebody with a cold.

(Laughter)

It's not rude to be upbeat. You can be you, OK? If you make an offer to be there for us, clearly state what you can and can't do. I have told people, "Hey, call or text any time, but I might not be able to get back to you that same day." It's totally cool to not make an offer, or to make a narrow offer with really clear boundaries around it. Give us a _____ of control. Like, get our consent. I have a friend who, a while back, when I was having a __________ _______, reached out and said, "Hey, I want to check in with you. Can I call you every day? Maybe text you every day and call later in the week? What works for you?" By getting my permission, she earned my complete confidence and _______ one of my best _______ _____. And my last __________ is: interact about not depression, aka, normal stuff. I have a ______ who, when people were worried about him, they would call and ask if he wanted to go shopping or help them clean out their ______. Your depressed friends could be a good ______ of free labor —

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Original Text


You don't need to put on a sad voice because we're depressed — you don't sneeze when you're talking to somebody with a cold.

(Laughter)

It's not rude to be upbeat. You can be you, OK? If you make an offer to be there for us, clearly state what you can and can't do. I have told people, "Hey, call or text any time, but I might not be able to get back to you that same day." It's totally cool to not make an offer, or to make a narrow offer with really clear boundaries around it. Give us a sense of control. Like, get our consent. I have a friend who, a while back, when I was having a depressive episode, reached out and said, "Hey, I want to check in with you. Can I call you every day? Maybe text you every day and call later in the week? What works for you?" By getting my permission, she earned my complete confidence and remains one of my best friends today. And my last suggestion is: interact about not depression, aka, normal stuff. I have a friend who, when people were worried about him, they would call and ask if he wanted to go shopping or help them clean out their garage. Your depressed friends could be a good source of free labor —

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