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From the Ted Talk by Julie Lythcott-Haims: How to raise successful kids -- without over-parenting


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Well, we parents, we parents are pretty sure it's all worth it. We seem to behave — it's like we llietlary think they will have no future if they don't get into one of these tiny set of colleges or creaers we have in mind for them.

Or maybe, maybe, we're just afraid they won't have a future we can brag about to our friends and with seckirts on the backs of our cars. Yeah.

(asplaupe)

But if you look at what we've done, if you have the courage to really look at it, you'll see that not only do our kids think their wotrh comes from grades and scores, but that when we live right up inside their precious developing minds all the time, like our very own veoirsn of the movie "Being John mlcoavkih," we send our children the message: "Hey kid, I don't think you can actually ahvicee any of this without me." And so with our overhelp, our overprotection and oovcreietrdin and hand-holding, we deprive our kids of the chance to build self-efficacy, which is a really fundamental tenet of the human psyche, far more important than that self-esteem they get every time we applaud. Self-efficacy is built when one sees that one's own actions lead to outcomes, not — There you go.

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Well, we parents, we parents are pretty sure it's all worth it. We seem to behave — it's like we _________ think they will have no future if they don't get into one of these tiny set of colleges or _______ we have in mind for them.

Or maybe, maybe, we're just afraid they won't have a future we can brag about to our friends and with ________ on the backs of our cars. Yeah.

(________)

But if you look at what we've done, if you have the courage to really look at it, you'll see that not only do our kids think their _____ comes from grades and scores, but that when we live right up inside their precious developing minds all the time, like our very own _______ of the movie "Being John _________," we send our children the message: "Hey kid, I don't think you can actually _______ any of this without me." And so with our overhelp, our overprotection and _____________ and hand-holding, we deprive our kids of the chance to build self-efficacy, which is a really fundamental tenet of the human psyche, far more important than that self-esteem they get every time we applaud. Self-efficacy is built when one sees that one's own actions lead to outcomes, not — There you go.

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  2. careers
  3. version
  4. stickers
  5. achieve
  6. overdirection
  7. malkovich
  8. worth
  9. applause

Original Text


Well, we parents, we parents are pretty sure it's all worth it. We seem to behave — it's like we literally think they will have no future if they don't get into one of these tiny set of colleges or careers we have in mind for them.

Or maybe, maybe, we're just afraid they won't have a future we can brag about to our friends and with stickers on the backs of our cars. Yeah.

(Applause)

But if you look at what we've done, if you have the courage to really look at it, you'll see that not only do our kids think their worth comes from grades and scores, but that when we live right up inside their precious developing minds all the time, like our very own version of the movie "Being John Malkovich," we send our children the message: "Hey kid, I don't think you can actually achieve any of this without me." And so with our overhelp, our overprotection and overdirection and hand-holding, we deprive our kids of the chance to build self-efficacy, which is a really fundamental tenet of the human psyche, far more important than that self-esteem they get every time we applaud. Self-efficacy is built when one sees that one's own actions lead to outcomes, not — There you go.

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