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From the Ted Talk by Alexis Jones: Redefining manhood—one locker room talk at a time

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Open Cloze

"Here we go, we're going to have this conversation." Then I click the next slide, and I said, "But it's different when it's her." And I memorized ten to fifteen names, I said, "It's different when it's Sarah, and when it's Lauren, and when it's Jenny." And now these guys are looking at their 16-year-old sister. Half the guys in the room started crying. We have to _______ this issue to make this extremely personal to them. Number three, we have to have a conversation about respect. You can't give something that you don't have. We have to imbue these young men with more self-respect, so that they're able to treat others with more dignity. What dawned on me was that we are not teaching enough emotional education in ______ right now, we are certainly not teaching these young men how to create an authentic __________, so they are ________ it from exactly where they know how. Through performance, through __________, and through possessions. We have to broaden a definition of confidence that is not __________ on social media highlight reels and external validation. Number four: We have to have real talk with these guys. I have yet to come into a locker room where they use _____ like "consent" and "bystander." Those are words that we use, in our shiny star studded PSAs. I have yet to hear of a guy come in, and raise his hand, and be like, "There's this really great opportunity for us, bystanders, to intervene." (Laughter) I have never _____ of a guy be like, "We were in the middle of _______ up, I'm not gonna lie, I paused, I was like, 'I just wanna make sure that I officially have your consent moving forward.'" (Laughter) That's not me ______ fun at the _________ behind these words. That's just we have to give them real language and real tools for the moments that we are asking them to be _____. We have to work with them, and be in ____________ with them, to offer them language when they see something sketchy, being able to say, "Yo, we don't do that." That in the middle of hooking up, to give them language like, "Yo, I just wanna make sure that you're cool with us having sex." Because as long as we're talking to them like ________ robots, I think we're setting them up to fail. And as far as a few calls to action, anyone in _____, please stop crucifying coaches and universities when this _____ happens in their locker room; we're at pandemic levels, this is happening everywhere. Instead, just celebrate the universities who are doing it right, so that we can inspire others to ______ suit. For coaches and educators, please invest in programs like these, that are ____________ ________, we cannot continue to triage these symptoms, putting band-aids on bullet wounds. For _______ out there, you hold all the _____ in your wallets. Demand that, in order for you to pay tuition, these schools have to invest in the safety of both your daughters and your sons. For students out there, ask your administration to invest in these kinds of ________. And for student athletes out there, say that you are not going to sign with any university that isn't ______ prevention a priority. For policy makers out there, if you have to have a driver's license to _____ a car, why would you not have to take a mandatory ______ assault prevention program, in _____ to attend a college or play sports? For the National League team owners, would you be so _________ as to sign a ProtectHer ______ that says that you won't _____ any students who have sexual assault convictions. To be a professional athlete is a privilege, it's a real-life _________ in this country, and you _________ have the ability to change the entire game with those _____ of standards. Lastly, __________ is a battle cry, it's a belief ______, it is a ________ identity that is rooted in the inherent _______ for women. Right now, as we sit in this auditorium, we have women and bad-ass men all over the country, marching, standing at their capital, saying that this is the shift - (Applause) (Cheers) saying that this is the shift that our country wants to make, and it's easy for us to sit in an auditorium, and it's easy for us to hear these different talks and to be inspired by them, but the truth is, this kind of audacious shift in culture is going to demand that the warrior, that the _________, that the protector in you and in me _____ to the occasion to create a new definition of normal, where girls, and women, and all people are _______ with dignity and respect. Because the truth is that men are not simply the problem when it comes to violence against women, they're also the cure, and we have never needed them so much. So, for the real men out there, consider this your __________. Thank you so much. (Applause) (Cheers)

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Original Text

"Here we go, we're going to have this conversation." Then I click the next slide, and I said, "But it's different when it's her." And I memorized ten to fifteen names, I said, "It's different when it's Sarah, and when it's Lauren, and when it's Jenny." And now these guys are looking at their 16-year-old sister. Half the guys in the room started crying. We have to reframe this issue to make this extremely personal to them. Number three, we have to have a conversation about respect. You can't give something that you don't have. We have to imbue these young men with more self-respect, so that they're able to treat others with more dignity. What dawned on me was that we are not teaching enough emotional education in school right now, we are certainly not teaching these young men how to create an authentic confidence, so they are sourcing it from exactly where they know how. Through performance, through popularity, and through possessions. We have to broaden a definition of confidence that is not contingent on social media highlight reels and external validation. Number four: We have to have real talk with these guys. I have yet to come into a locker room where they use words like "consent" and "bystander." Those are words that we use, in our shiny star studded PSAs. I have yet to hear of a guy come in, and raise his hand, and be like, "There's this really great opportunity for us, bystanders, to intervene." (Laughter) I have never heard of a guy be like, "We were in the middle of hooking up, I'm not gonna lie, I paused, I was like, 'I just wanna make sure that I officially have your consent moving forward.'" (Laughter) That's not me poking fun at the intention behind these words. That's just we have to give them real language and real tools for the moments that we are asking them to be brave. We have to work with them, and be in conversation with them, to offer them language when they see something sketchy, being able to say, "Yo, we don't do that." That in the middle of hooking up, to give them language like, "Yo, I just wanna make sure that you're cool with us having sex." Because as long as we're talking to them like academic robots, I think we're setting them up to fail. And as far as a few calls to action, anyone in media, please stop crucifying coaches and universities when this stuff happens in their locker room; we're at pandemic levels, this is happening everywhere. Instead, just celebrate the universities who are doing it right, so that we can inspire others to follow suit. For coaches and educators, please invest in programs like these, that are preventative medicine, we cannot continue to triage these symptoms, putting band-aids on bullet wounds. For parents out there, you hold all the power in your wallets. Demand that, in order for you to pay tuition, these schools have to invest in the safety of both your daughters and your sons. For students out there, ask your administration to invest in these kinds of programs. And for student athletes out there, say that you are not going to sign with any university that isn't making prevention a priority. For policy makers out there, if you have to have a driver's license to drive a car, why would you not have to take a mandatory sexual assault prevention program, in order to attend a college or play sports? For the National League team owners, would you be so audacious as to sign a ProtectHer pledge that says that you won't draft any students who have sexual assault convictions. To be a professional athlete is a privilege, it's a real-life superhero in this country, and you literally have the ability to change the entire game with those kinds of standards. Lastly, ProtectHer is a battle cry, it's a belief system, it is a cultural identity that is rooted in the inherent respect for women. Right now, as we sit in this auditorium, we have women and bad-ass men all over the country, marching, standing at their capital, saying that this is the shift - (Applause) (Cheers) saying that this is the shift that our country wants to make, and it's easy for us to sit in an auditorium, and it's easy for us to hear these different talks and to be inspired by them, but the truth is, this kind of audacious shift in culture is going to demand that the warrior, that the gladiator, that the protector in you and in me rises to the occasion to create a new definition of normal, where girls, and women, and all people are treated with dignity and respect. Because the truth is that men are not simply the problem when it comes to violence against women, they're also the cure, and we have never needed them so much. So, for the real men out there, consider this your invitation. Thank you so much. (Applause) (Cheers)

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