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From the Ted Talk by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski: The cure for burnout (hint it isn't self-care)

Unscramble the Blue Letters


EN: mikang that hapepn in real life is, of course, easier said than done. And one of the things that is my little reminder to myself is that when I feel like I need more grit, what I actually need is more help. And when I look at Amelia's life, and I think, "She needs more dpciiinlse, she needs more perseverance, she needs to work harder," what she actually needs is more kindness. That's the baseline culture cgahne that’s going to end burnout forever.

AN: And usually the next question people ask us is, "I don't have anyone like that in my life. I am the leader, I am the one who's doing all of the things." And the solution for that is probably closer than you think. I mean, I grew up in a household where feelings were, like, not allowed and we were not close our whole lives. And then we started reading the research that said that connection and sharing spuprot was the way out of burnout. And we sattred trying, and we, like, broke down this 30-year barrier of, you know, societal and family pressure not to, like, feel our figlenes around each other. And it turns out that if you feel like you're isolated, there's probably someone on the other side of that wall, it turns out, who wants just as much as you to connect with someone else. And we've been iaeltosd because we've been told that it's stronger to be independent. It's not true. We're going to be healthier and stronger when we work together. There's probably someone already waiting who also wants the kind of relationship that you are desiring.

Open Cloze


EN: ______ that ______ in real life is, of course, easier said than done. And one of the things that is my little reminder to myself is that when I feel like I need more grit, what I actually need is more help. And when I look at Amelia's life, and I think, "She needs more __________, she needs more perseverance, she needs to work harder," what she actually needs is more kindness. That's the baseline culture ______ that’s going to end burnout forever.

AN: And usually the next question people ask us is, "I don't have anyone like that in my life. I am the leader, I am the one who's doing all of the things." And the solution for that is probably closer than you think. I mean, I grew up in a household where feelings were, like, not allowed and we were not close our whole lives. And then we started reading the research that said that connection and sharing _______ was the way out of burnout. And we _______ trying, and we, like, broke down this 30-year barrier of, you know, societal and family pressure not to, like, feel our ________ around each other. And it turns out that if you feel like you're isolated, there's probably someone on the other side of that wall, it turns out, who wants just as much as you to connect with someone else. And we've been ________ because we've been told that it's stronger to be independent. It's not true. We're going to be healthier and stronger when we work together. There's probably someone already waiting who also wants the kind of relationship that you are desiring.

Solution


  1. happen
  2. change
  3. isolated
  4. started
  5. support
  6. discipline
  7. feelings
  8. making

Original Text


EN: Making that happen in real life is, of course, easier said than done. And one of the things that is my little reminder to myself is that when I feel like I need more grit, what I actually need is more help. And when I look at Amelia's life, and I think, "She needs more discipline, she needs more perseverance, she needs to work harder," what she actually needs is more kindness. That's the baseline culture change that’s going to end burnout forever.

AN: And usually the next question people ask us is, "I don't have anyone like that in my life. I am the leader, I am the one who's doing all of the things." And the solution for that is probably closer than you think. I mean, I grew up in a household where feelings were, like, not allowed and we were not close our whole lives. And then we started reading the research that said that connection and sharing support was the way out of burnout. And we started trying, and we, like, broke down this 30-year barrier of, you know, societal and family pressure not to, like, feel our feelings around each other. And it turns out that if you feel like you're isolated, there's probably someone on the other side of that wall, it turns out, who wants just as much as you to connect with someone else. And we've been isolated because we've been told that it's stronger to be independent. It's not true. We're going to be healthier and stronger when we work together. There's probably someone already waiting who also wants the kind of relationship that you are desiring.

Frequently Occurring Word Combinations


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collocation frequency
stress response 5
uncomfortable feelings 3
cloe shasha 2
emotional exhaustion 2
stress cycle 2
perceived threat 2
safe place 2
response cycle 2
real life 2

ngrams of length 3

collocation frequency
stress response cycle 2

Important Words


  1. allowed
  2. barrier
  3. baseline
  4. broke
  5. burnout
  6. change
  7. close
  8. closer
  9. connect
  10. connection
  11. culture
  12. desiring
  13. discipline
  14. easier
  15. family
  16. feel
  17. feelings
  18. grew
  19. grit
  20. happen
  21. harder
  22. healthier
  23. household
  24. independent
  25. isolated
  26. kind
  27. kindness
  28. leader
  29. life
  30. lives
  31. making
  32. people
  33. perseverance
  34. pressure
  35. question
  36. reading
  37. real
  38. relationship
  39. reminder
  40. research
  41. sharing
  42. side
  43. societal
  44. solution
  45. started
  46. stronger
  47. support
  48. told
  49. true
  50. turns
  51. waiting
  52. wall
  53. work