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From the Ted Talk by Marisa G. Franco: The secret to making new friends as an adult

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But what _____ Sullivan argues, is that when kids share this shame with their friends and their _______ are like, you know, we still love you. You know, this isn't a big deal for us, right? And we still think you're amazing and we accept that about you, right? We begin to be able to ______ it in ourselves and to _____ whatever we felt shame about, to see it as just part of our personalities rather than antithetical to the personality that we want to have. And we are able to sort of relinquish all of the energies that we spend trying to push this thing away. And so in that way, the experience of experiencing that platonic love from our friends, especially at that time in childhood, teenagers, where we're very high in shame, we're like highest in _____ than throughout our whole lifespan, right? That our friends are there at that time when we're so high in shame, to help us _________ that and to help us connect to all sides of ourselves so that we sort of begin to become who we _____ are.

Solution


  1. friends
  2. stack
  3. bring
  4. accept
  5. fully
  6. shame
  7. integrate

Original Text


But what Stack Sullivan argues, is that when kids share this shame with their friends and their friends are like, you know, we still love you. You know, this isn't a big deal for us, right? And we still think you're amazing and we accept that about you, right? We begin to be able to accept it in ourselves and to bring whatever we felt shame about, to see it as just part of our personalities rather than antithetical to the personality that we want to have. And we are able to sort of relinquish all of the energies that we spend trying to push this thing away. And so in that way, the experience of experiencing that platonic love from our friends, especially at that time in childhood, teenagers, where we're very high in shame, we're like highest in shame than throughout our whole lifespan, right? That our friends are there at that time when we're so high in shame, to help us integrate that and to help us connect to all sides of ourselves so that we sort of begin to become who we fully are.

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Important Words


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