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From the Ted Talk by Emily Nagoski: The truth about unwanted arousal

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And we only do this around sexuality, because arousal nonconcordance happens with every eioatnoml and motivational system we have. If my mouth waters when I bite into a womry apple, does anybody say to me, "You said no, but your body said yes?"

(Laughter)

And it's not only our partners who get it wrong. The National Judicial Education Program peslhbuid a document called "Judges Tell: What I Wish I Had Known Before I Presided in a Case of an adlut Victim of Sexual Assault." numebr 13: On ooaciscn, the victim, female or male, may experience a physical ropsnsee, but this is not a sexual response in the sense of desire or mutuality." This brings me one step closer into the darkness, and then I psorime we will find our way into the light. I'm thinking of a recent court case involving multiple icsentans of non-consensual sexual contact. Imagine you're on the jury and you learn that the vctiim had oasmgrs. Does it change how your gut responds to the case? Let me remind you, orgasm is physiological; it is a spontaneous, involuntary release of tension, generated in response to sex-related siltumi. But the perpetrator’s lawyer made sure the jury knew about those orgasms because he thought the orgasms could be construed as consent. I will also add that this was a clihd being abused by an adult in the family.

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And we only do this around sexuality, because arousal nonconcordance happens with every _________ and motivational system we have. If my mouth waters when I bite into a _____ apple, does anybody say to me, "You said no, but your body said yes?"

(Laughter)

And it's not only our partners who get it wrong. The National Judicial Education Program _________ a document called "Judges Tell: What I Wish I Had Known Before I Presided in a Case of an _____ Victim of Sexual Assault." ______ 13: On ________, the victim, female or male, may experience a physical ________, but this is not a sexual response in the sense of desire or mutuality." This brings me one step closer into the darkness, and then I _______ we will find our way into the light. I'm thinking of a recent court case involving multiple _________ of non-consensual sexual contact. Imagine you're on the jury and you learn that the ______ had _______. Does it change how your gut responds to the case? Let me remind you, orgasm is physiological; it is a spontaneous, involuntary release of tension, generated in response to sex-related _______. But the perpetrator’s lawyer made sure the jury knew about those orgasms because he thought the orgasms could be construed as consent. I will also add that this was a _____ being abused by an adult in the family.

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Original Text


And we only do this around sexuality, because arousal nonconcordance happens with every emotional and motivational system we have. If my mouth waters when I bite into a wormy apple, does anybody say to me, "You said no, but your body said yes?"

(Laughter)

And it's not only our partners who get it wrong. The National Judicial Education Program published a document called "Judges Tell: What I Wish I Had Known Before I Presided in a Case of an Adult Victim of Sexual Assault." Number 13: On occasion, the victim, female or male, may experience a physical response, but this is not a sexual response in the sense of desire or mutuality." This brings me one step closer into the darkness, and then I promise we will find our way into the light. I'm thinking of a recent court case involving multiple instances of non-consensual sexual contact. Imagine you're on the jury and you learn that the victim had orgasms. Does it change how your gut responds to the case? Let me remind you, orgasm is physiological; it is a spontaneous, involuntary release of tension, generated in response to sex-related stimuli. But the perpetrator’s lawyer made sure the jury knew about those orgasms because he thought the orgasms could be construed as consent. I will also add that this was a child being abused by an adult in the family.

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