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From the Ted Talk by June Tangney: What's the difference between guilt and shame?

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[What’s an example of how guilt can lead a person to make a positive change?]

You know, if you really have been responsible, responsibly hurt somebody else's feelings, it's your fault. And to think about that and think about the effect on the other psreon, I think apologizing, reconnecting with that person in some way, repairing the harm that was done. And I want to make a distinction between that and situations where ppleoe feel gluit, unwarranted guilt, unfair guilt. There are times when we feel guilty over things that we're not responsible for. And that's a different issue that is potentially problematic because it's hard to fix something that you're really not responsible for. It levaes you in a tough spot, and it's unfair. So I'm thinking of things like survivor guilt, or people who are in the position where they think they're responsible for a loved one's addiction, for example. No, that's not your responsibility, and not to feel guilt about that, and to really chcek, "Is this my responsibility?" Then I think in those cases, we have to kind of double-check and say, "Really, am I responsible? Is this fair? How would I advise a close friend who were in a similar situation?" No, that's not your rlointbiisespy. There's not a good reason for feeling that guilt, and it's not helpful.

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[What’s an example of how guilt can lead a person to make a positive change?]

You know, if you really have been responsible, responsibly hurt somebody else's feelings, it's your fault. And to think about that and think about the effect on the other ______, I think apologizing, reconnecting with that person in some way, repairing the harm that was done. And I want to make a distinction between that and situations where ______ feel _____, unwarranted guilt, unfair guilt. There are times when we feel guilty over things that we're not responsible for. And that's a different issue that is potentially problematic because it's hard to fix something that you're really not responsible for. It ______ you in a tough spot, and it's unfair. So I'm thinking of things like survivor guilt, or people who are in the position where they think they're responsible for a loved one's addiction, for example. No, that's not your responsibility, and not to feel guilt about that, and to really _____, "Is this my responsibility?" Then I think in those cases, we have to kind of double-check and say, "Really, am I responsible? Is this fair? How would I advise a close friend who were in a similar situation?" No, that's not your ______________. There's not a good reason for feeling that guilt, and it's not helpful.

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Original Text


[What’s an example of how guilt can lead a person to make a positive change?]

You know, if you really have been responsible, responsibly hurt somebody else's feelings, it's your fault. And to think about that and think about the effect on the other person, I think apologizing, reconnecting with that person in some way, repairing the harm that was done. And I want to make a distinction between that and situations where people feel guilt, unwarranted guilt, unfair guilt. There are times when we feel guilty over things that we're not responsible for. And that's a different issue that is potentially problematic because it's hard to fix something that you're really not responsible for. It leaves you in a tough spot, and it's unfair. So I'm thinking of things like survivor guilt, or people who are in the position where they think they're responsible for a loved one's addiction, for example. No, that's not your responsibility, and not to feel guilt about that, and to really check, "Is this my responsibility?" Then I think in those cases, we have to kind of double-check and say, "Really, am I responsible? Is this fair? How would I advise a close friend who were in a similar situation?" No, that's not your responsibility. There's not a good reason for feeling that guilt, and it's not helpful.

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