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From the Ted Talk by Sahaj Kaur Kohli: Why children of immigrants experience guilt -- and strategies to cope

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CSB: Yeah, so interesting. It looks like we have a question from the audience, "Is long term guilt ever justified or beneficial?"

SKK: So, the thing we know about guilt is that there is healthy guilt, right? Healthy guilt alerts us to our morality, to the pain and hurt that we might be causing to other people, to the social and cultural standards that we may have crossed. And it can help dcreit our behavior. If we're really stiitng with it, we can understand, "OK, you know what? I didn't want to hurt that person" or "I didn't want to do that thing." So that can help you then decide to make amends, to cahgne your behavior, to apologize. But then we have uhhetlnay guilt where maybe the guilt that we're feeling is adopted through vaelus that we don't necessarily hold or boundaries that we don't necessarily want to hold. So long-term guilt — guilt is not necessarily a negative emotion. It's really inaoptrmt to understand that dianifrtitoefen, that guilt is something that can really guide us. And like any emotion, it's telnilg us something and we must lstien to it before we decide how to handle it.

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CSB: Yeah, so interesting. It looks like we have a question from the audience, "Is long term guilt ever justified or beneficial?"

SKK: So, the thing we know about guilt is that there is healthy guilt, right? Healthy guilt alerts us to our morality, to the pain and hurt that we might be causing to other people, to the social and cultural standards that we may have crossed. And it can help ______ our behavior. If we're really _______ with it, we can understand, "OK, you know what? I didn't want to hurt that person" or "I didn't want to do that thing." So that can help you then decide to make amends, to ______ your behavior, to apologize. But then we have _________ guilt where maybe the guilt that we're feeling is adopted through ______ that we don't necessarily hold or boundaries that we don't necessarily want to hold. So long-term guilt — guilt is not necessarily a negative emotion. It's really _________ to understand that _______________, that guilt is something that can really guide us. And like any emotion, it's _______ us something and we must ______ to it before we decide how to handle it.

Solution


  1. telling
  2. direct
  3. change
  4. values
  5. differentiation
  6. important
  7. listen
  8. sitting
  9. unhealthy

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CSB: Yeah, so interesting. It looks like we have a question from the audience, "Is long term guilt ever justified or beneficial?"

SKK: So, the thing we know about guilt is that there is healthy guilt, right? Healthy guilt alerts us to our morality, to the pain and hurt that we might be causing to other people, to the social and cultural standards that we may have crossed. And it can help direct our behavior. If we're really sitting with it, we can understand, "OK, you know what? I didn't want to hurt that person" or "I didn't want to do that thing." So that can help you then decide to make amends, to change your behavior, to apologize. But then we have unhealthy guilt where maybe the guilt that we're feeling is adopted through values that we don't necessarily hold or boundaries that we don't necessarily want to hold. So long-term guilt — guilt is not necessarily a negative emotion. It's really important to understand that differentiation, that guilt is something that can really guide us. And like any emotion, it's telling us something and we must listen to it before we decide how to handle it.

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